Was my Uncle Bi or Gay?

It seems that a lot of gay men talk about being molested (although some of them don't think of it as abuse) as a child by an older relative.  The question sometimes arises if that is what caused the man to be gay.  While I don't think so, it is my belief that we are born with our sexual orientation; perhaps being gay may be somewhat genetic.

Well my uncle lived on the family farm, never married, and seemed somewhat preoccupied with sex, or at least so it seemed to my childhood naivete.  He was "known" to date women, but it always seemed that they were chasing him and he was trying to escape them.  In addition to being a farmer, he was a carpenter by trade, and he often carved objects out of wood.  One of these objects was a beautiful piece of dark wood such as walnut whittled into the shape of a very large penis -- about 10 inches long and comparably large in girth.

As a child, he often took me off on various adventures, to go fishing, boating, and camping.  On one of these trips, we went down to the local river and he suggested that we go swimming.  When I protested innocently that I did not have a bathing suit, he said that there was no one around, we didn't need suits and could just skinny dip.  Once in the water which was very cold, I was complaining and wanting to get out.  He grabbed me and pulled me close to him and asked me if I was feeling the warmth of his piss.  Nothing more than that happened.

Also I remember sleeping with him in his bed in his log cabin during the summertime.  At the time, I was an early teen-ager while he lay close to me and told a few dirty jokes.  However, again he never went any further than that and did not touch me.

After he turned 60, he developed prostate cancer and in addition to the medicines he was given, the surgeons castrated him supposedly to arrest the cancer.  One afternoon we were walking on the farm, he pulled out his dick and said watch this as he pissed a blue color resulting from the medications.  On another occasion when we were alone, he pulled down his trousers and underwear and had me feel his empty ballsack.

I have a much older male cousin who also spent many summer vacations on the farm with my uncle in earlier years before me, and I have wanted to ask him if he also had any similar gay-like experiences with my uncle.  This cousin is married and I have never had the courage to ask him.

Somehow, I believe my uncle certainly had gay tendencies, but out of respect for his sister and me, he knew where to draw the line.  I'll never know for sure.

What Is The Right Thing To Do?

What is right?  What is wrong?  Do you always know the answer?  Is it black and white, or are there shades of gray?  On some subjects, we have differing opinions on what is right and wrong.

On this blog, I have maintained that it is WRONG to circumcise male babies, and that it is purely a black and white issue, with no shades of gray.  No reason justifies it, even religion.

Other blogs are concerned with bisexuality -- especially married men with children, who feel compelled to have relationships with other men.  Is it better for the married men to remain married for the sake of their children or professional life?  Or would it be better for the men to get a divorce and pursue their gay partnerships.  Which decision makes them happy?  What is the best decision for the children?  What is the best decision for the wife?  Maybe she would be understanding and want to keep the marriage intact, despite knowing that her husband was seeing men on the side.  Is there a right answer to this question?

A number of other blogs are being written by young gays -- in high school, college, or just starting a professional life.  One of their most pressing questions is "Do I come out?"

What about sexuality in general?  Are we straight, gay, or bisexual from birth and we should learn to accept that reality?  Religion and many cultures say no, that only hetereosexuality is normal.  But why for centuries have their been homosexuals?  Could that be a part of the plan?

Is religion always on the right side?  What about the Inquisition?  What about Pope infallibility?  What about religion and war?  What about religion preaching intolerance?  If you support religion especially with your monetary donations, are you also supporting some of the questions just raised?

Clearly some questions do NOT have easy straightforward black and white answers!  If you are interested in pursuing more about philosophy and morality, I highly recommend that you view Professor Sandel's lectures:  Justice: What is the right thing to do?  This is an actual series of lectures given at Harvard University and now being broadcast on PBS.

The link to the website is: http://www.justiceharvard.org/

And a link to the first two lectures is:
 http://www.justiceharvard.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=11&Itemid=8.

I welcome your comments -- both on the questions that I have asked above, and on Professor Sandel's lectures.  Raise a question of your own that does not have an easy answer. Please let me know what you think by adding your comments below. Thanks.

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Women's Opinion of their Man's Circumcision Status

Does this blog have any female viewers?  If so, we need your opinion of your partner's dick.  Is he cut or uncut?  If you have had partners who were cut and uncut, which do you prefer and why?  Also include what country you are from and if religions such as Jewish or Muslim affect your opinion.  Tell us if you plan to have your future baby boys circumcised when they are born -- why or why not?

So ladies, please click on "Post a comment" below and give us your opinion.  We always want to know what our partners think, but may be too embarrassed to ask.  Now is your opportunity, so please respond.

UNCUT OR CUT?

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A BONER

What is harder than morning wood?  Why is an erect penis referred to being as hard as wood or as steel.  Why is it called a boner?  Does it have a bone in it?

My mother was a student nurse when she was in her early 20's before she married my dad.  I don't know if she had any first hand knowledge about a man's penis, whether it be soft or hard.  But as part of her training, she had to scrub as an operating room nurse; she was assigned to prepare the surgical instruments for an upcoming operation -- the amputation of a man's penis.  So on the tray she placed a pair of rongeurs, which are used for cutting bone!

Needless to say, she became the laughing stock of the surgical team.  My guess is that she was still a virgin, had no experience, and planned on being prepared!  At least, she didn't include the orthopedic saw among the instruments.  She would tell this story on herself and say that she knew better, but had only made a mistake in selecting the instruments.  Yea, right! Surely, this is what she imagined:

She wised up before I was born and did not let her OB doctor cut the tip of my penis off!  Thankfully, today I am intact and enjoy using my foreskin!

Our Anatomy: “A Pair of, Right vs. Left with Ornamental Jewelry”

You know we only have one body, but a lot of redundancy. Redundancy means having a back-up. Our bodies have a lot of redundancies – two of almost everything. We have a pair of brain hemispheres. It’s how you use your brain that’s important; are you left-brained or right-brained? Dolphins really know how to use their brains; one hemisphere sleeps while the other hemisphere is awake. That way he is always alert to swim and get away from killer whales. I wish I were a dolphin – just think how accomplished I could be if I could stay awake 24 hours a day without insomnia.

We also have a pair of eyes and a pair of ears. Seeing and hearing only requires one, but seeing in three dimensions and listening in stereo requires a pair. If someone claps over here on this side of the room, we know the direction the sound is coming from, because the ear nearest the sound hears it the loudest. Put a patch over one of your eyes as you drive down the highway – that car is how far in front of you?

We only have one nose, but a pair of nares; only one mouth, but we speak out of both sides of it; and I even have a double chin, unlike the square jaw of this beautiful man.

Our bodies have a pair of lungs, a pair of kidneys, and a pair of breasts. A newborn boy is very happy to find out there are two of them, and worships them the rest of his life. Unfortunately, when a pair of twins are born, they each have only one. Pity the poor triplets and quadruplets; somebody has to go hungry.

There is only one belly button, but a pair of sex organs. Procreation must go on.

We have a pair of legs, and a pair of feet.

Let’s talk a little about the clothing we put on to cover all these pairs up. We put on a pair of shoes, and a pair of socks – a left one and a right one – that I understand. But a pair of pants? It’s only ONE article of clothing! A pair of trousers? A pair of shorts?

Boxers are plural. How about a jock strap? We refer to it in the singular, but it protects a pair of balls and exposes a pair . . . of cheeks!

Let’s digress and talk about jewelry. Most of the ladies wear a pair of earrings and so do some of the men, though they usually wear only one, but have to be careful to wear it on the correct side, which may not be the right side.  There are nose rings, pierced tongues, nipple rings, and Prince Albert’s.

What is a Prince Albert? It is a ring through the underside of the penis. Some guys think that the added stimulation the ring will provide causes their equipment to be displayed more prominently; but they have got it all wrong. You see, Prince Albert lived in the prudish Victorian period. He was married to Queen Victoria. The style of clothing then dictated that he wear skin tight white pants, but being the prude he was, he was afraid that his genitalia might show. So he put a ring in it, pulled it back and tied it between his legs!

Today we are piercing and tattooing almost everything.

Well, back to clothing. When we go above the waist, we no longer wear pairs. Everything becomes singular. A shirt, although it has a pair of sleeves. A blouse – never blice! Wear a night shirt with three tennis balls sewn on the back to keep a snorer off his back. A bra is not a pair, but it contains a pair! We never wear a glass, but a pair of glasses, although we used to wear an eyepiece.

Can you distinguish your left from your right? Well it is tough. When you are behind a person, his right is on your right and his left is on your left. But when you face him, his left is on your right and his right is on your left. It is a bit odd. Now here is a lesson for you to learn to distinguish left and right. You just have to learn your Latin. O.D. is right eye and O.S. is left eye. They stand for oculi dexter and oculi sinister. Now the Latin word for right is dexter, from which we get dexterous and dexterity. If we are confused, everything is right or ambidextrous. Olde English uses the same word for right and correct, as in “You are right.” Therefore your right side is your correct side. You think I am kidding? Your left is BAD, and to prove it, the Latin word for left is sinister, and we all know that is where SIN comes from. Back when I was in school, and I know that seems like a long time ago to all you young studs, the second-grade teacher, who taught cursive, carried around a wooden ruler and hit your left hand if you tried to write with it. It was the WRONG hand, not the right hand. Only 10% of people are sinister – the left handed ones! You know, there are all kinds of Latin words for positions: ventral and rostral (top and bottom); anterior and posterior (front and back); distal and proximal (far and near). So are you a rostral or a ventral? The rostral is always on top – just remember being on top of the rostrum.

The electrical field of the cornea in the eye is positive and the retina is negative. How can you remember that? Memorize “It’s positive to look forward, and negative to look back.

Well if you weren’t confused about your body before, surely you are now.

Playing sports going commando?

Just how wise is it to go without some support while playing sports?  Wasn't the jock strap invented to protect that hanging anatomy?  Well, I suppose it could be used for this too, when the action on the field is over:

Well perhaps, I can understand swimming naked, but their seems to be some controversy about whether the male parts contribute to drag and slowing down the swimmer!

Well apparently some jocks think a jock-strap is unnecessary!

For example, this tennis player resting on the sideline:

Or these soccer players:

Specialized bicycle seats (shown) are even made to protect the male testicles, but it still might help to wear a jock strap:

Going commando . . .

(From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia)

Going commando (or to go commando or "free balling") is the practice of not wearing underwear under one's outer clothing.

"Going commando" started with commando and similar special forces military units, when some soldiers stopped wearing underwear to prevent chafing. Going without underwear is said to have certain benefits. Possibly from the much earlier term "going regimental", which refers to wearing the kilt military style, or without underwear (also see True Scotsman).

In Chile, the act of not wearing underwear has been called "andar a lo gringo" ("to go gringo-style") for decades. In Costa Rica, this act is known as "andar strike" (to go strike). The term has recently regained popularity after its use on the television series, Friends, when one of the main characters states he would not "go commando" in a rented tuxedo.

Kilts have been traditionally worn without undergarments since their use as part of Scottish military uniform, leading to the invention of such expressions as "go regimental" or "military practice" for wearing no underwear. On the Western Front during the First World War, some Sergeants Major reportedly had mirrors tied to the end of golf clubs or walking sticks to inspect up and under the kilt at parade inspection. In the 1950s, kilted soldiers on parade would be checked by the Sergeant Major using a mirror on the barrack's floor. In 1997, a Black Watch soldier received wide press "exposure", because of windy conditions during a military ceremony in Hong Kong.

Kilt inspections

The term True Scotsman is most often used in the context of a kilt inspection; this inspection sometimes proceeds as follows: The kilt wearer is asked if he is a "True Scotsman". He responds in the affirmative or negative. If affirmative, proof may be demanded, the nature of which can vary depending on the person and situation. If negative, "confiscation" of the "offending" undergarments may be demanded.

Non-Scots and those unfamiliar with kilts seeking to determine the truth of the "True Scotsman" tradition can leave themselves open to innuendo and double entendre, as innocent queries can be turned on the questioner; as with the question "Is there anything worn under the kilt?" being answered with examples such as "No, nothing is worn, everything is in perfect working order!" or "Yes, socks, shoes, and talcum powder," and "Yes, socks, shoes, and two shades of lipstick."

So do YOU go commando?  Participate in the polls to the right and let us know!